When Dr. Stephanides asked me
to write about the reasons that compel us to have a facelift, it got me
thinking. As always, I tried to research
the topic, finding all the possibilities that exist, and then having compiled
all the information, I would sit and write the piece. But this was entirely different. However much I read, however much I gathered,
I could not detach myself from the topic.
For the first time in my writing years I found it impossible to see the
big picture and act as the third person or the observer … I am too involved in
this. Allow me to explain!
Being in my mid-40s, and
having already gone through the shocking mirror moment, where I actually looked
and looked and kept looking at the mirror, in an attempt to find the vibrant
image I was used to seeing in the mirror, I realized that I was not a happy
camper. That moment felt just as if
someone had ripped off all my self-esteem and my confidence. Of course, it is said that “beauty is in the
eye of the beholder” but … being the “beholder” myself, and being my own worst and
strictest critic, I was not looking at “beauty” anymore. I was faced with the reality, I guess, that
we do grow older and age comes accompanied by … unwanted side effects, if I may
use that phrase. And it’s not that I was
thinking about impressing others … not at all, it was all about me, impressing
me … and at that point, I was failing miserably.
Instinctively, the old:
“fight or flight” reaction, creped up on me.
However, knowing that I’m not a quitter and never was, the: “fine, I’ll
stay miserable reaction” was not something I could do. It was a matter of sitting and having a
conversation with myself, in order to actually figure out the next steps …
And here are all the thoughts
that went through my mind:
… I need my confidence back
… I do love and admire my
inner self, thus I need to act for my inner self
… I am at the stage where the
“nest” is empty, with my daughter at college, thus I have all the freedom I
want and need
… I am through with my 24/7 obligations
as a mother – no need to babysit anymore, no car rides … my daughter has spread
her wings and is on her own path to the creation of her life …
… I have dedicated myself to
my daughter for the past 20 years, so now it’s the time to look at me, for a
change
… I may be going through
mid-life crisis but then again I may not
… I have been divorced for
quite a long time now, with a partner, and happily so, but maybe I need to
“refresh” myself - not the relationship but me!
… Other friends of mine have
done something for themselves, even if they were in a long, happy marriage and
wanted to feel and look younger or were divorced and thinking about getting out
“on the market” again.
… I need to act now, before
it’s too late, and prevent, or at least slow down, the stages of aging. I need to be proactive!
… I don’t want to change me
or alter my natural characteristics.
That’s not what it’s all about.
All I want is to re-create my younger me … be able to look at the mirror
without scaring myself and running away like crazy
… I’m not over exaggerating,
I’m not freaking out, I’m not losing it, and I don’t believe in the “one size
fits all” approach to life, but I need to act, and I need to do it now
… Do I have valid reasons? Oh
yes, all my reasons are valid … and I’m ready to “face it” … I need a FACELIFT.
Ok, this is it … Dr.
Stephanides asked for an article on facelifts.
And what does he get? Well, a person wanting and being ready for a
facelift.
Sorry Doc!!!Image from:
http://www.deceptology.com/2013/11/whats-happened-to-this-womans-beautiful.html
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